ellenmillion: (no!)
ellenmillion ([personal profile] ellenmillion) wrote2011-12-18 01:57 pm

I? Am having the worst weekend ever.



First of all, I really don't care much for the holidays. There are bits I enjoy, but for the most part, the stressy, commercial, panicky pressure of it all is just wearying. I have no gift shopping of note accomplished; I tried looking for my nephews and was crowded out of the store by other customers and overwhelming choices - I don't even know what they LIKE anymore. I figured out some brilliant gifts for Jake, and one by one, they've all been dismantled. Work bought him the big one I was planning, so I figured 'accessories for it!'... to have him talk about returning it because it doesn't do one major thing he needs it to do for work. I ordered a game for him... to have him decide he needed to buy one himself and pick out something ENTIRELY different than the one I'd ordered for him, before finally getting the hint that maybe the week before Christmas wasn't the best time to order himself something. Now, I suspect he expects the one he picked out, not the one I ordered the week before. And I found a really hard-to-get kind of special whiskey that he really likes... to find out that he just got someone else to buy him some in Anchorage and bring it back for him. FAIL. I have no idea what to do now. I have one, stupid small thing, and that's it.

Yesterday, we went into town to go nursery shopping - find a glider rocker and pick up the stroller/carseat that I hadn't bought on Friday. We ended up going to 12 stores (literally). The first store had a selection that... wasn't quite what we were looking for - sort of modern and more expensive than we'd hoped. The second store, no options. Third store, no options. Fourth store was a detour to look for a rug for the living room - struck out there and got the runaround regarding ordering one. Fifth store was Walmart, which frankly makes my skin crawl. The whole feeling of the store is cheap and substandard - they had one cheap glider rocker, on display, but bolted down to a waist-high bench, in a completely inaccessible way. How do you buy a chair you can't SIT in? Who bolts down a CHAIR? Seriously - do they think someone's going to try to walk out with their display model? Sixth store had a really fancy model... for $780. Seventh store had an even fancier model... for $1600. Seriously? No. Stores 8-11 were more strikes (or side-trips, looking for other things we didn't find)- one had REALLY ugly and uncomfortable ones for $700. Store 12 was just to pick up the stroller, because by this time we were both grumpy and exhausted. And not only had the sale for said stroller expired three hours earlier, but now they were out, and the sales assistant gave us some kind of story about how she couldn't order one without a UPC (their display was frankly in shambles - the store is in the middle of renovations) and we went home basically empty-handed for wasting an entire day on slick streets dodging bad drivers in crowded parking lots.

Most of the food plans we made for the weekend backfired badly - we'd planned Mexican food, but the tortilla shells we bought had apparently shipped poorly, so we couldn't peel them apart without ripping big holes in them, to start with. We ran out of staples for other plans.

So, today, I figured I'd like to get the trim all finished in the nursery. A nice, small task that shouldn't take all day and might leave me some programming or reading time. Maybe assemble the swing, when I'm done. I like putting things together.

Now, after spending a couple of hours on the trim several weeks ago, I wasn't really happy with how it looked - one joint in particular. It frankly looked like crap. I put some caulk in the joint - sandable, paintable caulk - so I could fix it up a bit cosmetically. I was discouraged enough to put it off for a while, but retained some hope that I could make it pass muster. But coming back to sand it...? OH GOD. It didn't sand worth crap, just shredded my sandpaper and got all rough and scalloped-looking. It was like trying to sand rubber or cream cheese or something. I checked the caulk tube, and lo... Ellen the genius didn't use sandable caulk. Paintable and waterproof, yes, sandable, no. It looked AWFUL. So, after trying for another hour or so to sculpt it with various tools (knife, spatula... fingernail was the most effective), I took a crowbar to the trim and tore it all out. Which is where I am now, feeling like I've gone nowhere but BACKWARDS for the entire weekend.

I am tired, discouraged, and frustrated. I think I will have some chocolate and take a shower, then go try to get some new trim up and not screw it up too badly.

[identity profile] kittrel.livejournal.com 2011-12-18 11:15 pm (UTC)(link)
Oh no... That really is every kind of bad luck. :( I would have just sat down on the floor and started crying by the time of the caulk debacle. :P

I hope this coming week goes much better for you!

[identity profile] ellenmillion.livejournal.com 2011-12-19 07:42 pm (UTC)(link)
Believe me, there were tears! :) Thanks for the good wishes - looking better so far!

[identity profile] hailerro.livejournal.com 2011-12-19 12:05 am (UTC)(link)
Good luck with the gift finding! (Mine tends to lean towards DVDs so that's always a good bet for the holidays). Though you should remember that you ARE giving him the best gift of all: the gift of a child, gift of a new life, his progeny, etc. That's a pretty dang BIG GIFT, woman! (Hug)

Sorry this weekend has been so rough. Hopefully the rest of the week will get better and things will fall into place so the stress will ease up.

[identity profile] ellenmillion.livejournal.com 2011-12-19 08:41 pm (UTC)(link)
Thank you! And yes, feeling generally less stressed already. I found another gift for him that may or may not get here in time, and have some vague ideas for other little things.
jenny_evergreen: (Empathy)

[personal profile] jenny_evergreen 2011-12-19 12:38 am (UTC)(link)
*hug*

[identity profile] ellenmillion.livejournal.com 2011-12-19 08:42 pm (UTC)(link)
*hug* Thank you!

A little cheer???

[identity profile] edward cammarota (from livejournal.com) 2011-12-19 01:29 am (UTC)(link)
Did you get a package?????

Re: A little cheer???

[identity profile] ellenmillion.livejournal.com 2011-12-19 08:42 pm (UTC)(link)
O.o Not yet! I will be back by the PO tomorrow! I'm excited to see - you are the best!

[identity profile] laylalawlor.livejournal.com 2011-12-19 01:40 am (UTC)(link)
Ugh, I'm so sorry nothing's going right! Like [livejournal.com profile] haillero said, I think Jake will probably be happy just to have you and Guppy this Christmas. (Orion's not even getting a present, at least not until after Christmas, since what I was going to get him ended up not being able to be shipped to Alaska, so I'll be picking it up from family while I'm in the States and bringing it back with me ...)

Anyway, I do hope things get better. *hugs*

[identity profile] ellenmillion.livejournal.com 2011-12-19 08:43 pm (UTC)(link)
It was one of THOSE weekends. Should have known better than to try shopping the weekend before Christmas...

Already, things are looking up, so yay for that. :) And thanks!

[identity profile] pixiewildflower.livejournal.com 2011-12-19 01:51 am (UTC)(link)
(gentle hugs)

[identity profile] ellenmillion.livejournal.com 2011-12-19 08:43 pm (UTC)(link)
(hugs back)

[identity profile] penmage.livejournal.com 2011-12-19 02:25 am (UTC)(link)
For the baby stuff, does your area have any reliable craigslist/freecycle network? We got most of our baby furniture, glider included, on craigslist, for much cheaper than stores, and in many cases, better quality.

Plus, we found that when craigslist people find out you're having your first baby, people get all excited and give you extra stuff. It's fun.

[identity profile] ellenmillion.livejournal.com 2011-12-19 08:45 pm (UTC)(link)
I've been watching craigslist for glider rockers - there are actually 2 listed right now, but they're both at $10 and listed as 'used condition,' one with some pretty beat-up photos (showing no ottoman), and one without any photos. I'm dubious.

I'm going to continue looking, but the gliders at the first store seem WAY reasonable after more research, so I may go back for one of them!

[identity profile] pers1stence.livejournal.com 2011-12-19 03:27 am (UTC)(link)
*hug* it's okay to give up on the day, sit down with a DVD and some chocolate after your shower, and just unwind...

[identity profile] ellenmillion.livejournal.com 2011-12-19 08:45 pm (UTC)(link)
Excellent advice - and I took it. Feeling much, much better today!

[identity profile] pers1stence.livejournal.com 2011-12-20 03:21 am (UTC)(link)
very glad to hear it!

[identity profile] mizkit.livejournal.com 2011-12-19 06:18 am (UTC)(link)
Wow. That's a bad weekend. *hugs*

[identity profile] ellenmillion.livejournal.com 2011-12-19 08:45 pm (UTC)(link)
*hugs* Just 'one of those.' Fortunately past, now, and this week looks better so far!

[identity profile] jenny heidewald (from livejournal.com) 2011-12-19 11:52 am (UTC)(link)
I have to run right now, so can't read this all, but (HUGS)

[identity profile] ellenmillion.livejournal.com 2011-12-19 08:49 pm (UTC)(link)
(HUGS) Things are better today anyhow. :)

[identity profile] ursulav.livejournal.com 2011-12-19 03:27 pm (UTC)(link)
Awww, Ellen. This, too, shall pass! (I have trim we shall not discuss in public...)

[identity profile] ellenmillion.livejournal.com 2011-12-19 08:47 pm (UTC)(link)
Lol! Enthusiastic amateur housebuilding will result in many odd things. It too will pass - and it's only a few pieces I had to tear off. As re-dos go, it's not our worst!

[identity profile] browngirl.livejournal.com 2011-12-19 07:20 pm (UTC)(link)
*hugs you encouragingly*

[identity profile] ellenmillion.livejournal.com 2011-12-19 08:47 pm (UTC)(link)
*hugs* Thank you!

Some days are like that.

[identity profile] wyld-dandelyon.livejournal.com 2011-12-19 08:27 pm (UTC)(link)
Whiskey gets better with age, so that gift isn't a failure!

And hey--you know--you're giving him a guppy! As far as I'm concerned, that sounds like plenty of excuse to draw up a gift certificate to pick out something himself if you don't brainstorm something really cool in time.

My strange free-associating brain wants me to be sure to tell you that I know at least one married couple who always gives each other gifts AFTER Dec. 25 so they can shop the post-Christmas sales. Maybe one of those stroller/car seats you want will be returned on Dec. 26 because some other poor Mom-to-be was given three of them!

Re: Some days are like that.

[identity profile] ellenmillion.livejournal.com 2011-12-19 08:48 pm (UTC)(link)
Oo, that would be fortuitous!

I was in time to cancel the whiskey order, so I did, hoping to find something else before Christmas that will work. I have a few leads and some hope. :)

Thanks!

Re: Some days are like that.

[identity profile] wyld-dandelyon.livejournal.com 2011-12-20 04:16 am (UTC)(link)
I will keep my fingers crossed for you come next Monday!